Wicked Women & Lone Wolves

 Aloha & Happy Friday!

I briefly considered to solely publish future articles on my primary blog, however recent interactions and behavior prompted today's topic: the dangers of manipulative, jealous women! On my morning walk, I considered if I’ve met more toxic men versus toxic women in my life - hahaha! Ultimately, I deemed that thought to be irrelevant and moved on, choosing to redirect my energy to completing my training session and enjoying a short bout of mostly fresh air.

Part of my intention with today's blog is also to use my voice and platform to stand up for both the men and women who have been burned by wicked women! As I've mentioned in previous posts, I had no idea how jealous women are/were of me! Often disguising their jealousy in the form of compliments, I can certainly play along in conversation by now and it can be fun, if I choose that approach. However, most of the time I utilize my low-energy, 'diesel engine' mentality when dealing with fake people, smiling & nodding to their faces, while internally disassociating myself from their ignorance, low intelligence & immorality. This may sound mean, but I'm beyond over people being fake to me and while I am living in America, it's a strategy I use quite often, as my goodness, there are a lot of phonies in this country. {Guess you gotta combat "fake" with "fake" sometimes... but frankly, "acting" can be exhausting... and sometimes I think to myself: "how do these phonies do it so well for so long?".}

Last year, I mentioned to both genders now is the time to get a divorce and a dog! Many women and men want blind adoration, but let's be honest, pets are good for that - it's not healthy for relationships. In my current relationship, I'm with a man who not only deeply understands who he is, but also who he is not and inspires me to continue to build myself. Also, he provides me freedom to be myself in a world which mostly does not. Even though we haven't known each other that long, we are at the point of nonverbal conversations in public and stifling laughter becomes harder for me as the days pass.

That's all you get on my personal life! :) As far the men I've met over the past year, who have been burned by women... oh, the stories are harried and complex! On that note, I will say I had no idea how vindictive and manipulative women could be. Until a year ago, most of my experience observing this toxic behavior was sourced from listening to secondhand stories and watching movies. As a reasonable person, I understand the emotion of anger, but gosh, I would never display these types of unclassy behavior - not only for myself, but for my child's sake.

Often, I gift grace to people I meet for enduring traumatic upbringings, however increasingly that's boiling down to zero tolerance. No more excuses. Why? Because millions of us have had traumatic upbringings and face constant stress and barriers and chose to make changes, beating incredible odds. I consider not only my own remarkable turnaround story, but others who have transformed themselves after trauma, chose a self-discovery path and changed their self-sabotaging ways. Those lone wolves who walked the rugged road who often encountered unrelenting stress and multiple barriers on their journey to the top.

By top, I am referring to their personal mountaintop, whether they built a $1 billion dollar business and stay on board to actively manage/lead or cash out and gratefully decide to live off the grid in a campervan. Or an adventurous blend of both!

Everyone’s top looks different and let me tell you something: if you are a select “ultimate” lone wolf, who has not only repeatedly lost everything, but also built it back and stayed on track, often you’ve used some of your training time (personal development) to imagine your dream life. I have been fortunate to meet several ultimate lone wolves during my own lone wolf journey and consider them to be the greatest inspirations of model citizenship for our planet. {Also, known as our real-life super heroes!}

Over decades of chipping away at endeavors, lone wolves not only made themselves better, but often improved the lives of those around them. Often, embarking on a solo self-discovery journey (an alternative way to phrase the lone wolf phase) is necessary for personal growth and fulfillment. The lone wolf road is a difficult choice, but it’s still a choice. What's yours? Also, it’s important to note you don’t need to walk the famed El Camino trail in Portugal for lone wolf training nor spend $10k on a fancy retreat or conversely, sleep on cement for a week… on a practical level, it can be done by simply carving out an hour per day to devote to personal reflection, growth & action. Although our personal journeys may share commonalities, lone wolf training looks different for everyone and often depends on resources available to you. Stay tuned to my other blog for upcoming related posts, which includes tools and guidance, which may aid in your journey.

On a very personal note, please consider invasions of privacy are noticed, but at the end of the day, I'm going to live my life the best I can and enjoy every moment presently I can - with or without jealousy present. That's the beauty of fostering an unbreakable attitude and embracing the truth within your spirit. At this point in the game, I have realized many things about people and while my game face may or may not show it, I'll guess you'll never know! Or do you? 

After experiencing weird exchanges with many parties last summer... which became incredibly harassing towards the end of July 2024, I mentioned to many folks that I felt like a celebrity without the fancy beach house. Funny, but also not.

Cheers to the good energy exes that got away from bad energy partners! While no relationship is perfect, your intimate bond is sacred and is irrelevant to those who don't understand.

Best Regards & Enjoy your weekend,

Heidi